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THE 9 TYPES OF WOMEN: which are you and whats your preference?

  • Miss Independent : This is the type of woman who buying her anything is the one item to tick off your To- do-list. She is described to be very determined, focused, hardworking, usually business minded and smart . They are not afraid to take the risks and have set goals. However, sometimes these traits are what pushes potential partners away because men want to feel needed and so handling everything on her own is not the way with them.


  • Famous Thot : I am guessing that a lot of people already know the meaning of a “Thot” but for the benefits of others that do not know let me give you the dictionary meaning of a “Thot”. The Urban dictionaries describes a “Thot” as a Hoe. Simple! This woman would do anything for the money and popularity, she is wild and a party goose. silhouette-106418_1280When Chris Brown is in town for a concert, she will be included in the VIP list, front row and even the back seat of a car with Chris Brown. How she does it? i do not know. She is very complicated yet simple, in the sense that you can please her so far you have the money and the fame to do it.¬†
  • Uptown Girl : Just like the song goes “Uptown girl, living in an Uptown world”. Her life style is stylish and lavishing. She is classy, sexy and smart and so all the guys want her. The problem is, if and only IF a guy does get her, the struggle for her will never end and so resulting in always keeping up a strong game to retain her. For guys, that gets exhausting after a while,She is definitely of high maintenance and your relationship will always feel threatened by other scavenging men. Good Luck with such woman! you will need it.female-642715_1280

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  • Razz/ Ghetto : These are the women i would definitely call drama queens. They have gone to school to master the art of NAGGING. Nonetheless, they are sweet on the inside, when they love you, they love you and they will always watch your back. But you see, the thing is having such a woman as your main, for the cheaters it is almost impossible for you to play your game and even when you succeeded that SIDE BITCH is gonna dead soon that is¬†fo’sure¬†because your razz/ghetto girl is going to find out. Best of luck to you.¬†argument-238529_1280
  • The Guys Lady : This type of woman is usually the dream girl for sports lovers. She is very spontaneous, down to earth and is always happy to sit back and chill with your guy friends or just you and her playing games. She is not afraid to play rough, she will definitely be athletically built and easy-going. Although, she might not be the go to when you’re looking for something new…why? the reason being that she does not care!¬†sport-692796_1280woman-692785_1280
  • Mrs. Goody-Too-shoes : These are women whom sometimes are classified to be pathological liars or really sneaky, letters-483010_1280unreliable and manipulative. With this type you have got to watch your back, On the surface they usually appear sweet, the type your mother will encourage you to wife up but be careful you will not see the other side until you make her constant. On the other hand, they are dedicated, loyal, pretty, sexy, kind and intelligent (this trait varies from person to person, some are utterly naive and dumb).¬†
  • The Sociopath : They are lovable, sweet, caring, very relaxed and fun to hang with, still be careful because if there is anyone that can go from a 10 to a 100 real quick its them. Her bad side is to be avoided, you may never recover from it or unsee it. Usually, its hard to tell with these type of women due to how lovable they are but when your stimulate the other side, i bet you never saw it coming. They can literally kill to keep you :s
  • Freak of the Week : This is definitely self-explanatory,she is eye candy. She is smart, fine, girl-254708_1280sexy and a very huge tease. Everything she does is so sensual, for the guys that is literally holding you by the balls. She is with no doubt what every guy wants in bed for that ultimate satisfaction. Do bear in mind that with women like this cheating is always an issue as well as “blue-balls” ūüôā¬†
  • All or Nothing kinda type : Its simple, she is everything combined thus making her the definition of beautiful both on the inside and outside. She is smart, dedicated, caring not over bearing or goes over the top with nagging, she is hardworking and focused but she still makes out time for important things like family and love, she is independent but just enough to allow her man handle the good stuff, she is sexy as hell just like her attitude, she is supportive, religious and can satisfy you anyway you want. she knows the concept of personal space and respects that. She is straight to the point, spontaneous, fun and easy to confide in and chat. She is willing to fight, accept change and have a grown up argument. These type of women¬†exists, it is no fantasy trust me but if you have had her or if you find her don’t make the mistake of destroying the relationship with past bad-luck and loosing her.young-girl-531252_1280

Just recently, i came across a story while i was on twitter about a little girl who died and left a secret for her family to find. Now, i do not know how true this story is but the most interesting part of the story is “the secret” they said she had left behind.

I was gonna ask to hear some opinions but i have decided not to so i can still spoil the surprise. *Drum-rolls* please!… she left behind something i would call the “beautiful truth” but to clear the air of any confusion let me come right out and say it was a poem she left behind.

Now, i know some of you will probably be disappointed hearing this because “poems are boring” but trust me this one is pretty good. Its different from ¬†any poem i have read before even though i have not read much ;;. The reason being that most poems tend to focus on pain, lament, resentments or demise. However, this poem talks about the beauty of love, happiness and life from the view of a little girl not given the full opportunity to explore it all to the end. Let me go ahead and write it down.

“Happiness depends upon ourselves, maybe its not about the happy ending, maybe its about the story.

The purpose of life is a life of purpose. The difference between ordinary is that little extra. 

Happiness is a direction not a destination. Thank you for existing. Be happy, be free, believe, forever young. 

You know my name, not my story. You have heard what i have done but not what i have been through. Love is like glass, looks so lovely, but its easy to shatter. 

Everyday is special, so make the most of it. You could get a life- ending illness tomorrow so make the most of everyday. 

Life is only bad if you make it bad. Love is rare, life is strange, nothing lasts and people change. Life is a game for everyone but love is the only prize.

If someone loves you then they would not let you slip away no matter how hard the situation is. Remember that life is full of ups and downs, without the downs the ups do not mean anything. 

I am waiting to fall in love with someone ¬†i can open my heart to. Love is not about who you can see spending your future with, its about who you cant see spending your life without. There is no reason to cry, because i know you will be by my side”.


All done! it was pretty good right, it stares up so much emotion and inspiration inside which brings up a lot of questions. Although, today i just want to talk about two. Firstly, when people say Y.O.L.O what do they really mean?

Let me start by saying that the basic meaning of the abbreviation is simply freedom for those who have not heard of this. You only live once. Regardless, people have began using this as an excuse to do shitty things. When i hear Y.O.L.O i honestly expect a life of excitement and purpose.

Secondly, i want to address the issue of not believing in Love. Now, no one is forcing anyone into believing something they do not want to believe in, but i want to ask you a simple question.

If you are not living for Love what are you living for? It is when this question is answered, that you can understand the concept of a “life with purpose”. Please bear in mind that there are different things one can love and not just Human beings.

With this i can finally tell you stated facts are that everyone should live and strive for something that will give your life purpose, love is inevitable, It comes in different ways than you realize, some people do not know this until it is late and Love is rare.

Having said all this, cherish love when it is found, fight for it, strive for and live for it because it is with love you find peace, it is with love you find happiness and satisfaction, it is with love you find purpose and with love we are all united as one. The cure to this scornful world we all sought to fix has been right in our faces the whole time, LOVE.

It baffles me that when issues such as religion, sexuality, racism, political views are brought up, they spur and stimulate so much hatred. it does not have to be that way because the one thing they all have in common is that they all deal with the uniqueness of individuality and until we learn to deal with that, this world will still remain the same. Nonetheless, if we really want a change, the only way to do that is to put our differences aside and show as much LOVE and care as we can.



Threesomes, threesomes, threesomes. Hmm now, this is a very tricky sexual encounter. Studies have shown that majority of people (male and females) who have “threesomnia fever” as i call it, have yet to get the excruciating experience due to the serious complications concerned with it.

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A three-way sexual encounter has the power to drive a relationship to its downfall. A relationship has to be strongly built to be able to withstand the stress brought on by this intense fantasy. Before deciding to take the leap, allow me to give you the 411 of the possible complications that a relationship could run into.

  1. The possibility of one partner getting easily attached to the third-party and pursuing something more than just a hot one night stand.
  2. The resentful talks and the constant nagging about comparisons by a partner with the third-party.
  3. The increase in level of insecurity and jealousy

With all these complications, it does not imply the improbability of having a successful threesome, it only shows the possible outcome of a threesome. Now if you still want to take the dive then you should definitely read on to what is next.

What i will give you in the next few paragraphs would be guidelines to help you achieve something close to a perfect threesome, that is preventing damage to a high degree level. Now i must warn you that non of these guidelines are negotiable or avoidable, they MUST be followed. I call them the coollogo_com-207204047 LOL!

Before i go on, you will need to perform a relationship evaluation test. Every relationship has a growth stage which i have classified into two namely; the premature stage and the mature stage. A relationship still in its premature stage would be a relationship that is ranging from less than 3 months to 8 months, Yh that’s pretty long!. While a relationship in the mature stage would be ranging from 8 months and above. The reason why i have classified relationships into 2 is because a relationship within the premature stage will not be able to withstand the stress of a threesome, such relationships are still fresh and can easily be drowned so its best to stay clear. However, if you still want to go ahead fine! for the mature relationships you might want to manage the stress level you put on your relationship because you do not want to pass the elasticity limit.

With this done we can definitely begin stating the rules to follow!

  • UH UH…NO SECRETS¬†secrets

Yes you heard me… no secrets! nonetheless the only way to eliminate this completely and i mean the issue of secrets, the both partners have to trust each other. The both partners would have to join heads together in picking the right person. Also any form of communication from the third-party to any of the partners in the relationship should always be made¬†known to both partners not just one partner. The message from the third-party must have a mutual effect on both parties. I do hope you understand where am coming from.



People this an important law. This requires each partner to come up with sexual gestures they are comfortable and not comfortable allowing their partners do. When these rules are made, make effort to keep to them because any little violation can completely ruin the trust you have built-in the relationship. Please i beg you do not blame the issue of you slacking by not obeying the rules on the heat of the moment, it’s a really shitty excuse. Own up to the mistake if you make one, bear the consequences and make effort to fix things. Lastly, always put your partner on the priority list before anyone else. focus on the satisfaction of your partner both physically and emotionally. PS: do not engage in sneaky business that is definitely bad ending for you!


I chipped this in earlier on but i did not go into depth, now am about to so stress your eyes. This part is as important as every other rule i have mentioned. Do not be lazy in carrying out this part, i know it is stressful. The reason is because as much as we hate to admit it, we are not like the actors/ actresses on reality kings. It is very hard to have such a wonderful time with two other people and have to move on like it never happened, so it would be more advisable to indulge an escort or a friend(someone trust worthy) as the third-party and not just someone you found on the internet through social media, dating site or Craigslist. This still applies even though you claim you have performed screening tests. its better to be safe than sorry.


Honestly, this is the most important rule because it is concerned with your health and can definitely cause harm so you better take this rule seriously. If your still clueless as to what am saying i mean Condoms! you can change condoms with every switch made and make sure to get yourselves tested before the Big day.

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That is the last of it ! I do hope i have been of great help to all of you and if you still need more help, counselling, questions do not hesitate to contact me through the social medias i have provided for you or you could personally email me at

Also let me know what form of the threesome you prefer



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Leave your answers and comments below! thanks and see you next time.

What is a strong relationship?

A strong relationship is one that is hard to achieve, am sure you already know that. However, you might be wondering what exactly is missing that is making your relationship difficult. Well today is your lucky day because am here to help! I have put together a mini power point video to help you better understand the dynamics of a healthy relationship.

I am guessing you are done with the video so let me further explain. In our society of today, most people disregard love, respect and communication and depend on attraction to save their different relationships. Do not do that and why? it is because each of these elements cannot stand on their own, they depend on one another for leverage so let me go ahead to explain.

Firstly,  attraction is a MUST, without this element your relationship is as good as zero be it a mother- daughter relationships, boyfriend-girlfriend relationships, friendships, sibling relationships or other forms of relationship. Assume there is a magnet, and you with whomever are the metals on the opposite sides of the magnet, you have to attract to get along. This attraction can be sexual attraction, attraction caused by similar traits or habits  etc.  I hope your following along.

Secondly, respect is KING! I am saying this because no matter how much your attracted to someone without respect that relationship is doomed. level of respect can be determined when the questions i earlier mentioned in the video above are answered. Each of those questions are targeting different ideas and emotions an individual has concerning the other person in a relationship. When these questions are answered and analyzed but unfortunately you find out results show that there is nothing your gaining mutually from one another then there is no respect. If your very observant, then i will not need to tell you the very non-obvious reason why you respect your parents so much, but for the sake of those who do not know it is  because you look up to them as role models and not due to respect being compulsory.  Another example is, remember that one friend you so much respect ever wondered why? well here is answer; you understand their personality so well and you guys have a special way of relating to one another. Am sure your probably thinking wow so true! i never realized.

Thirdly, ¬†Communication is important however, without respect communication is almost impossible. ¬†communication requires a high level of understanding, it requires talking AND listening(see how i emphasize the “and”), it requires compromise which on its own consists of “give and take” and lastly, always ¬†changing¬†point of views. Lean forward, allow me let on a little secret, without putting yourself in the shoes of another person, you CANNOT understand the person.

Finally, LOVE is the ultimate. In the video above, i mentioned the main characteristics of love . Personally, am in love with the idea of love and that is why it would be my pleasure to explain to you the characteristics.

  1. Love is pure: love is pure in the sense that you cannot lie about loving someone because eventually the truth will show itself.The reason being that love demands a lot and in other to meet up to these demands one needs to be very supportive, patient and tolerant. This makes it easy to differentiate between  when you love someone or your in love with someone with when you do not or not.
  2. Love is tender: when you love someone, it is irresistible to cater to the persons needs, the person tends to show off more of their soft sides which is more often than not warmer and more affectionate.
  3. Love is generous: This simply means that love is big enough to be given to whomever you please, love never runs out, its what keeps us alive. It will always be there to be given out in what ever form you desire,it is due to this that a person is capable of loving as much people as possible all at the same time. Love can be given in the form of agape, eros, ludus, storge, pragma and mania, you name it!
  4. Love is unconditional: this concept simply means loving someone no matter what. Through the toughest and ugliest you will be there to help and do not worry Love will be there to give you the strength you need to do this. You know that saying that couples usually use in the movies as their wedding vows; “i will be there in sickness and in health, loving you in bad and good times”? that is unconditional love! Also that saying that if a man that ¬†capable of not loving you at your worst ¬†is not worthy of you at your best, that is unconditional love. it simply means “NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCE”.

The Mother & Daughter relationship.


Mother- Daughter relationships can be very complicated and hard to maintain. Mothers on one hand are programmed to be over protective of their female off-springs, its their nature which is what most daughters ¬†do not understand. On the Other hand, daughters tend to pick offence and and give off the wrong response to their mother’s actions. Yes it can be annoying when mothers are always asking questions but you cant blame them because its a natural instinct they posses. What you can do is tolerate and act right.

Studieshas shown that there are very basic problems that different  Mothers and Daughters seem to have in common.

  • coollogo_com-4461736¬†Daughters do not have time for their mothers
  • Daughters do not listen to their mothers
  • Mothers are too controlling and exhausting.


let me say that no matter how true these complaints are, nothing will change the fact that the Mother- Daughter relationships are like ¬†¬†“school work projects”. You cannot submit a shitty (pardon the language) project assignment and expect to get a great score, It does not work that way its like a swing, you have to push to go up. The same thing applies to a mother and her daughter, for the two of you to get along just fine the weight has to be pulled from both side if you not you will remain stagnant.

What i have learnt in life, is that in every complaint or lie, there is a truth. Daughters that complain that their moms nag a lot at them, i ask and why do you think she is nagging? guess what? they always give the same answer which is “i don’t know, she nags for no reason”. Today, i am saying that is impossible. Someone does not just nag for no reason, they are nagging because there is something you did wrong which may either be little or big. ¬†The same thing goes for mothers, your daughters acting a specific way cannot be for no reason, something your doing is not making them happy.

I have developed 4 major key factors in other to get that healthy mother- daughter relationship.

1.) ¬† ¬† Mutuality: Another word i can use to describe this is ¬† ¬†“reciprocate”, if you don’t understand that, i will give a basic ¬†definition; give and receive. ¬†This is a mechanism ¬†that most people are fund of disregarding but honestly, it is one of ¬†the most basic basic basic basic; notice i said it four times, features ¬†of any successful relationship. This world we live in is built on ¬†this idea “mutuality”.when you take a bar of chocolate from a store in exchange for money your “giving and receiving” at the same time while the person behind the counter “receiving” the money and “giving” you the Chocolate is doing both at the same time. So you see how basic this mechanism is?

Relating this to a mother and daughter relationship, would be thinking that it is your mother or daughter that needs to make changes for the relationship to develop, that is a big mistake. Every type of relationship should be seen as a school project like i said earlier on; you give to receive. When you put in hard work into your project, your score will obviously get better no matter how little. The same goes for mothers and daughters, there will always be certain behaviors that needs to be changed on the part of both parties for there to be any good change at all. This brings me to my next point.

2.)    Communication: How many times do i need to say this? -__-             Communication is the key!!!minions-363019_1280

without communication relationships  will seize to exist. Communication is what is needed to bring any  good change you seek. I have seen in so many different occasions  where communication is being talked about, but it seems people  just nod their heads and believe they understand without actually  UNDERSTANDING.  Communication involves a two way process  of reaching a mutual understanding. A.) Exchange of information B.)  sharing the meaning of the information. Simplifying this long grammar  is simply talking and listening.

This one time i was discussing ¬†with a friend of mine about her boyfriend issues, she kept on saying “they talked about it and sorted everything out but he keeps doing the same thing over and over again”. then i asked her when you say “talked about it” what do you mean? then she says it means “i walked up to him and i told him…” Hell no! the problem is that your either not communicating with him or your communicating too harshly. Your the only one talking, he is not talking and that is why he cannot listen to you and you cannot listen to him too.

In a mother- daughter relationships do not think that by you talking means the other person should listen. Common, we are in the 21st Century, there is something magical called a conversation, be it on social media, mobile¬†,phone or face to face. Both the mother and the daughter should settle down and exercise ¬†the process of talking and listening, after all its what we do everyday in class when the teacher brings up a topic, gives you information and later, people ask questions and bring up their ideas. Its not hard all you have to do is avoid harsh communication while still trying to tell you mom or your daughter the things you don’t like, then ask for the things they do not like so that the both of you can COMPROMISE and make good changes. Do not forget your there to also listen and not just talk.

3.)    Do i have to say this one?chinese-676650_640

forgiveness and reconciliation may sound like the same thing but they are totally different acts. Forgiveness is an individual act done only when it can be recognized that this person in question has actually been hurt one way or the other, it means totally letting go. However, on the other hand reconciliation is a two- person act. Mothers and Daughters need to forgive themselves before reconciliation can take place.  You have to learn to forgive in order to be forgiven, the earlier it is the better chances of sewing back any damaged part of the relationship.

4.)   Learn to balance Individuality and intimacy: This where most daughters find hard and tend to push their mothers away. As Daughters we all pass through that stage in life where its either you do not want your mothers to input at all into our lives because we feel that we cannot be ourselves if we let our moms contribute or we allow them contribute so much that you do not even have a say on anything anymore. A balance between this two has to be found so we can be our true selves and also have that healthy intimate relationships around with people around.

These are the 4 major factors i have mentioned. I urge you all to study them and also practice for a better Mother- Daughter relationship. If you have any questions, i will surely be happy to answer. Just leave them in the comment box below or email me at For more information you can see in this book: amazon text Amazon&asin=http://www]

How to turn a friends with benefits into a relationship

Firstly, i would like to address the common mistakes people make between these two forms of relationships “friends with benefits” and “no strings attached”. Now i know many of you may have seen the movie no strings attached. In the movie the partners were completely strangers, who knew nothing about each other. Before going into a “FWB” relationship, you should know the basics which include that the word ” FRIENDS” in that title is not for decoration, both partners in the relationship would have to be friends to make it work and now that’s where the problems starts. Some will ask how can i be actual friends with him/her, have sex and not fall for head over heels? Well the truthful answer is that you cant but that’s why i am here to tell you how you can try to ¬†turn it into a legitimate relationship.

Do’s and Dont’s ….

Where most people make mistakes is when they are setting the rules in guiding the relationship. To begin, your relationship is gonna be based on this keyword “FRIENDS”¬†,there are some rules that contradict it such as: keeping your thoughts and emotions to yourself. That is all wrong! if you want your relationship to workout adding such rules will only make it break down. The whole point of the relationship in the first place is to be able to share your thoughts and your emotions with your partner because that is what FRIENDS do. when you understand this your a step closer to having a better future with your partner.

Let’s get something clear,¬†articles on the net talking about how women are the ones that usually get attached….its a LIE! its not in every situation that the female ends up attaching relationship elements,¬†in fact¬†45% of times the guys ends¬†up being the one that falls. Which brings me to my next point.

You can never be sure!

There is no particular pattern as to how a “FWB” relationship should turn out, it all depends on the partners, the circumstances and how you play your cards.¬†I have studied and found out that in most relationships whether its the man or the woman that ends up getting too emotionally attached but the other partner is refusing to take it further, it’s often because of they are scared of taking it to the next level or they are waiting for a direct approach from you or you gave them an ultimatum (no one likes to be pressured). Now in situations where the other person is not willing to partake in furthering the relationship at all you know the problem was from the beginning.

Choosing the right person….

What most people do not know is that if you are “really” friends with someone to the extent of sleeping with them, the two of you are very compatible and that is why choosing the partner for this sort of relationship is very crucial because it contributes to the outcome of the relationship. You do not just pick any friend to sleep with and expect that things to work out when it gets complicated.

Now, another thing is that some people do not know why they are in this sort of relationship, others go into the relationship believing that if they cant have you as a girlfriend or boyfriend, at least they get to have you with them in bed. These sort of instances are the type that mostly lead to¬†disastrous¬†outcomes. Don’t for once think that if someone cannot think of you as a potential¬†partner before sleeping with you,¬†their mind will change if¬†you get in bed with them, it does not work that way because everything balls down to the level of respect and attraction the person has for you.

Leading him/her into your booby trap….(Challenging part)

Let me get to the main point which is turning this sort of relationship to a legit relationship. i will give you factors to consider and follow. I am assuming that you guys are already in a relationship and if that is the case

  • First, do not be pushy about the situation. what most people don’t like is experiencing pressure because it causes frustration which never ends well. These sort of things take time to build up so give it time and just be calm. Plus everyone likes an easy going person.
  • Secondly, you are in a very opportuned position to influence the person (if truly you are friends). What i mean is that if ¬†you guys are really friends it would be so easy getting him/ her to like you but not just as a friend but also see you as a potential partner because you will be allowed to spend time laughing, going out with you guys group of friends, doing what normal friends would do. Doing this, he/she will get to see your fun side and not just your sexual side, also it helps if you know what the person is into, that way you guys can share things in common. This part is important because allowing him/her to see this fun part of can change the persons total perspective about you.
  • Thirdly, control your feelings, this is another essential part. Don’t let your feelings get the best of you, it may be hard seeing your partner sleeping or seeing another person but those are the cons to the relationship so you have to be able to deal with it till you can get him/her to the position you want them in and also remember that no one wants a nagging maniac or a parole officer(if you get what i mean).
  • Don’t forget to be caring on an average level not an obsessed level.
  • Lastly, communication is the key. When you have feelings for your partner don’t be discouraged to say it or show it because if you don’t it will only create space for miscommunication which eventually lead to ¬†more complication.

NOTE:¬†Now let me warn you that this is not a guaranteed method of turning your “FWB” into a potential partner but it is a head start and if after everything, things do not go your way accept it honorably for you never know what the future holds, he/she may not have heard of the saying “you never know what you have till you loose it”.

However If after time and the person does not still see you as a potential partner do not fuss because its not worth it….there will be someone out there better for you. One mistake most people make…Make sure to end everything on a good note do not make it too dramatic and at the same time do not make it too light it should be on an average, that way you guys can still communicate without jeopardizing your friendship this is only for those that still feel they are strong enough to endure that awkwardness but with time i assure you it will fade.

My ultimate advice for all you Ladies and Gentlemen out there is that if you can avoid this sort of relationship please do because somethings are just inevitable and if you feel the only way you can get your partners attention is by being “FWB” then its not worth it because if truly the person is your friend the person would notice you and appreciate you with or without this sort of relationship. I hope i was helpful and if you have any questions you can email me on Cheers!

Signs he is Cheating you!

Ladies Firstly,

 if you think your man is cheating on you, chances are he is definitely cheating, always follow your guts but not to the point of snooping around his things and following him.snooping woman

That is too wrong. Most articles i have read talk about specific signs to hint that your man is without doubt being unfaithful. Please note that some of these signs cannot be tagged with certain relationships.

Every relationship is different, no! what the heck every HUMAN is different…

There are no specific signs to know a guy is cheating unless you have studied the person both in and out.  Some people say that his mood or behavior is a hint to know he is cheating but if you ask my opinion that is BULLSHIT! why? 

The reason being that there are 1 million and 1 reasons why someones attitude or mood could suddenly change, be it medical or psychological or physical, So do not sink your head into such ideas.

The only thing i can tell you to be at least 75% true is that we are all humans and there are some actions that we are programmed to perform. Example when you are insulted by someone you pick offense almost immediately. its automatic!

The same applies when you know you are doing something bad and its so bad that no one can find out about it, what do you do? you keep it a secret. Its this automatic action that leads to the suspicious and awkward behaviors. e.g not answering his calls around you, becomes over protective towards his phone, starts giving vague answers to his whereabouts. 

However, do not jump into conclusions because like i said the circumstance might be different. it could be someone blackmailing him or better he is planning a surprise party for you. Whatever is the case, the only way to definitely find out is to confront your partner about it. Nothing feels better than to hear it from the horses mouth.

Now, where the real problem lays is seeing if he is going to admit to his actions or not but before that, i have to say that any guy who does not own up to his infidelity is a coward! yes i said and i am not sorry. What is the point of doing something if you cant own up to it. Its like going for a presentation and denying your work, that’s awful! whether good or bad, fine or ugly never hesitate to own up to an outcome of your action. Also him owning up to his actions is the beginning of reconciliation. Without that the relationship will keep falling in pieces.

When your man does not own up to his actions when confronted, that’s when you are allowed to go hardcore IF your fully convinced that he is cheating on you. DO NOT TAKE THIS STEP IF YOU ARE SECOND GUESSING YOURSELF!

Before i forget another thing you can consider to know if you man is cheating, is to study him. This can ONLY  be done if you have carefully analyzed your man and you are without doubt positive that you know him both inside and outside. This way you can tell when something is ultimately wrong and it has something to do with a woman.infidelity-379565_1280

Finally, i know some of you reading this article as a life line choice may be scared, confused or even heart broken. I cannot tell you to not feel that way, it would be pointless but i can tell you that cheating is something that happens often, which many at times there is a causative, so i bid you to re-evaluate your relationship and see what and where it all went wrong. when you have done this, next step is to prepare for the worst since your at a fragile stage in your relationship.

I will assure you that if your successful getting through this stage of your relationship it will make you guys stronger so buckle up and fight for what you want.

I f you have any comment or questions or discussion topics please leave it below in the comment box. Also if you need to contact me by email i would be glad to help you. Do not forget to share and follow us. Have a lovely day :). 

Motivate Yourself

Am here to bring you the tip of the day concerning self- improvement. I want you all to understand and analyze this quote properly

“what is done is done, do not swell in the past, for what is gone is forever gone. One of life’s most valuable lesson is to always move on. It is okay to look back and think of memories but keep moving forward”.

I love this quote a lot and guess why? its because it helps in reminding people that matter what you might have gone through in the past, it is always good to keep your head up forget about it and move on. You know what, if you don’t there’s always gonna be something that keeps holding you back from accomplishing great things and some of us might wonder why its happening but what most fail to understand is that in order to move forward you have to let go of the past.

I was watching a documentary of an old case called “the craigslist killers”, some of you might have heard about it however, when i was watching Miranda Barbour’s¬†confession tape (the female accompanist in the murder case) she did say something that caught my attention which was that one of the things that triggered her into stabbing Laferrara (the victim in the murder case) was that he displayed aggressive attributes towards her which reminded her about her past of being molested by her uncle in her early ages.


It is not normal to victimize others of the pain you might have gone through not matter the circumstance. it is hard to move from the past but it is not alright when you claim to have moved from the past just like Miranda Barbour did in her situation but still blame your present actions on your past. Really! no matter what you might have gone through, cruelty does not reward anyone it only leaves more scars. Until we all learn not to dwell in the past then the cruelty will be turned to kindness, whatever pain the person may have caused you. what many of us¬†don’t¬†realize is that you cant keep blaming past events and people¬†for your misfortune because when you fail no one will remember it as (someone) caused you to fail instead people will remember it as you caused yourself to fail.

As easy as it may sound its hard to actually move on but when done it is well rewarded. I hope you all have benefited from this article and i would appreciate your comments and reviews. for further information, tips, inquiries you name it! email me at I would be delighted to help and good bye till next time.

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